Brother and Sister

I have felt so blessed to have been given two beautiful children. They are such great kids. To have a boy and a girl was just what I wanted, but in the last year I have begun to see that this might not be as ideal as I thought.

When Shelby was born Walker adored her and she him. Walker loved to play with her and help her. As she grew he let her tag along where ever he went and still does. Shelby was so sensitive to her big brothers needs, that even as a infant she would cry if he was crying. She wanted him to be happy always, and continues to want that.

Well in this last year Walker has really become indifferent to his sister. He says he wishes he had a brother, and that she bugs him. But it's more than that. He is just mean to her sometimes. Purposely ignoring her, negatively commenting on anything she says,(which is belittling) teasing her to tears. Part of me thinks this is normal, he's getting older and there is a three year gap in age, and another part of me wants to punish him for hurting this little princess who worships him.

One night a few weeks ago I peeked into Shelby's room and Walker was reading her a story book. Walker has become a very good reader, and I was moved by this momentary break in his dislike of his sister. It was very sweet to see.

I decided to ask him to read to her every night. When I asked he really didn't want to, but he does it and I know he really does enjoy it and of course so does she. I want them to be good sibllings and learn to love and serve each other. I know I can't make them, but I hope they will stay loving to each other.